And I just realised I have been staying happy for a while now. And what’s the reason behind? I really don’t know. Haha! True though, I never realised how I overcame my insecurity, but it just came naturally. Good vibes are all over my head. Smile has become the new trend. The old laughter is coming back like it was never gone. You know why? Let me tell you. I started to love my own story like it being my best fairy tale. All the ups and downs were part of me and I took them as my strength.
Hey! Listen to me and answer. Is there anything more human than wanting to feel special? What is it being special? Are we special? Yes and no. In a sense, everything that exists is special. But at the same time, we’re really no different from each other. We’re all born with, more or less, the same cognitive and physical capabilities. Some of us grow to develop those capabilities more than others, but we’re nevertheless incredibly alike, you and I. I’m not more special than you. Nor is anyone you adore or admire. We’re just people.
And that’s what scares us. We’re just people. We’re just living beings that, more often than not, feel lost, confused, and alone. We find ourselves the star of a movie that we aren’t particularly certain comes with a happy ending. We’re a bit scared, and usually not brave enough to admit it. We’re just people… but we want to be more.
Nobody wants to feel like they’re fading into the background. Think back to all those times that you felt like you needed to be seen and heard, your silent shouts falling to deaf ears. And that’s not a bad thing at all. It’s no secret that we’re egocentric creatures. We do the things we do in order to be happy. The question is: what is being happy? I’d have to argue that being happy is little more than being made to feel special.
Happiness is the feeling you get when you feel special in some way or form. So what exactly is feeling special? What does it mean to be made to feel special? We feel special when others make us feel like we’re a part of their life. When we’re made to feel like we take up a space in someone’s mind or heart. In a sense, we’re on an endless search to connect with others, to become a part of their lives — that’s what it basically boils down to.
We have all been in the position of hoping for special treatment when we violate rules. We hope that the traffic cop will let us off with a warning because of our “special circumstances.” We want the airline to make an exception for us when we are late for a plane or when our luggage is a bit too large for a carry-on. We are not bad people, we just want to receive that extra bit of attention to let us know that we matter in this very impersonal world; we want to be seen as a person, to be validated as unique. The issue isn’t whether it is good or bad to want to be treated specially; rather, it is how we deal with the reality of when we are not.
If we are not being treated specially, let’s give this privilege to someone else. Let’s not be that egocentric person who left us without giving us the special treatment we deserved, or we needed or we wanted. If someone could not wind that smile around our lips why don’t we pledge to wind one in someone else’s lips?
I have been human too. Even I asked to be special in one’s life and in return I had to deal with the egocentric attitude. Look at the game of destiny, once I stopped demanding to be treated specially, I had people who just came up and made me special without any signs, signals. They just came and it all happened. I saw myself smiling like I never lost my smile.
Because at the end, if you pay attention to the patterns of your life, you will realise everything always works out. Everything always takes you to a greater destination. You always grow and the things you think you cannot survive you somehow divinely make it through. That’s life. Always remember that. Being happy is the solution.